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We often set goals without exploring why they are our goals in the first place. “My goal is to buy a huge house” is a common one, though one can desire this huge house because of some other, deeper desire, having nothing to do with the house itself. You may want a huge house because it’s a clear sign to an insecure younger self that they’ve become successful, and thereby they matter to people that paid them no attention. “I want to run a marathon” may be a goal that results from only feeling like your true self when you strain what you believe you’re capable of. A fear of sitting still. A fear of death.

To distill the true nature of goal setting, ask yourself why. Why is this my goal? When you answer that question, ask why again, and finally a third time. Get as deep as you can. Understand the reasoning behind the goal, and understand yourself much more in the process.

Using the external to fill the internal never works because you cannot feed feelings. “More” silences the ego for a moment, but it quickly returns to ask why you don’t have more, and why you’re not good enough to get it. Comparing yourself to others fills you with shame, instead of gleeful abundance.

Instead, we must ask ourselves what it is we’re seeking with more. What we’re missing now with “enough” and what makes us think that once we cross the bridge to “enough”, we wont find ourselves in the same place we are now. “More” is a symptom. Enough is a balm.

Reboot, by Jerry Colonna, asks a marvelous question: “How am I complicit in creating the conditions I wish to avoid?” It’s a very stealthily difficult, probing question to think about. One of the things it may bring to the forefront is how many of us try and not disappoint others, and thereby we very much disappoint ourselves in the process. We live lives other people, we think, would want us to live. We do things we think others wish us to do. We put our emotions on auto pilot to be this “other” for someone else, while never taking the time to decipher if we, ourselves, wish to be the “other.” Another way: we never think about who we may be or what we may want inside. Disappointment has a way of taking up space in your head. It’s an automatic door closer to possibilities in the world that our true selves would be open to. It takes time to de-clutter the mind and understand our expectations for ourselves, rather than other’s expectations of us, but it’s a job well worth the effort.

The idea is this: You use something that has the capacity to do multiples of what you can do on your own, for your benefit. Leverage is selling a product where you make money while you sleep. Leverage is writing timeless content that does not expire. It’s allowing the thing to compound on it’s own with little to no input from you. Leverage usually does not require your presence and many times it’s better that you not be present, for fear of making an emotional mistake.

Your relationships-the relationships that mean the world to you, do not work on leverage. They work in a linear fashion. They compound slowly, but you have to constantly feed it, over and over. You must invest your own sweat, time, blood, tears, presence in these relationships. The payoffs are enormous. Lifechanging.

The trick is to use leverage in your work and financial sphere, to provide you the opportunities to use linearity in you personal one.